A nervous and excited college freshman sat through an orientation lecture. Before her on the desk was a piece of paper asking for housing selections. She selected her first, second and third choices and prepared to hand it it. She hesitated a moment, then erased her choices, adding in a new top choice. She handed in her paper and thought nothing of it. In the end, she got her first choice for housing, and it was a choice that would ultimately change her life completely.
That college freshman was me, and that college housing choice led me on the path that I still walk today. How can one little choice have such a big impact? You might be surprised. That choice led me to meet someone who would become one of my best friends. She was the person whose connections would lead me to meet my future husband. It was the choice that would change my future from whatever might have been, to let me live around the country and indeed the world. One simple choice, made off hand. Made by little more than instinct and a feeling. A feeling it was the right choice for me.
Ever since then, I’ve always wondered what would have been. What if I had stayed in my little green home state, like I always wanted to? Would I have the life I always dreamed of? Sometimes, when I rage against the circumstances forced on my by powers larger than myself, I sit and wonder. I dream of the life I never had.
But that’s not my path. It never was.
A fleeting glimpse of maybes and might-have-beens. That’s all. There’s still a path before me, a twisting, winding and unexpected path. One that has taken me thousands upon thousands of miles from home. One that has filled me with fear, and hate, and loneliness; but also love, joy, an exhilaration. I’ve been able to travel to far off lands, pursue my own passions freely, meet new people, and achieve life long goals.
It’s not been an easy path. It will not be get easier either, but it is mine to walk. Mine, taken by choice, or happenstance, or even Fate. What choice in your life brought you to where you are today? What choice has made you into the person you are today? It’s not easy when you stand facing your greatest fears to walk the way that lays before you.
But no one ever said it would be easy.
You have a choice: embrace the path set before you, or vainly try to get back to what was and what never will be.
So which will it be? What choice will you make?