Can you remember who you were, before the world told you who you should be?”
― Danielle LaPorte
Authenticity is a buzz word these days. Everyone is using it, everyone wants to be authentic. How hard can it be to be yourself? Well thanks to societal pressures and norms, pretty hard. Once upon a time you knew who you were, you acted with reckless abandon and embraced the things that made you happy. It’s time to find that part of you again. It’s time to find the things you’ve forgotten about yourself and embrace yourself fully. Where do you even start? It’s all well and good to tell someone to be authentic, but actually doing it? Well that’s a bit harder. Your authentic self is there, you just need to unleash it! These 6 activities will help you discover how to be you. Freely, and totally you.
1 | Meditate
There are so many outside pressures that tell you how to be. Forget those, stop listening to them, if only for a moment. Instead, turn your attention inward. Turn your attention to yourself, to your heart, your mind, and your soul. Meditation is one way you can quiet the noise of the outside and focus entirely on yourself. No more pressures, no more “shoulds”. Just you and yourself.
2 | Follow Your Passions
What makes you light up inside? What makes you feel unbound joy? What makes you feel like a kid again? Find and focus on those things. Embrace them, make it a part of your daily life. If drawing makes you happy then do it, if wearing amazing girly bows makes you happy, do it. Geek out on Star Wars, embrace your inner metal head. Whatever makes you feel alive, happy, unstoppable, embrace it. You aren’t too old for it. It’s not just for boys, or girls. If you like it, it’s for you.
3 | Purge
There is nothing as liberating as getting rid of the things that hold you back. Get rid of the things and people that no longer serve you. Don’t hang onto things with bad memories, and that you hate. The same goes for anything you haven’t used in a few years. Those people in your life who take, take and take, but are never there for you? Say no. Reclaim your time and energy.
Protip: Need to move on from some emotional baggage that you just can’t get over? Try this! Write down your problem on a piece of paper. Then burn the paper in a fire-safe container. Dispose of the ashes by washing them down the drain or putting them in the trash and removing them from your house. Don’t bury them in your yard or anything, you want that energy gone and away from you!
4 | Practice Self-care
But…you have things to do! And people need you! I know. But you deserve 15 min a week just to yourself to recharge your batteries. Pick a block of time, and make a meeting with yourself. Have a cup of tea, read your book, go for a walk, or take a bubble bath. Do something that helps you recharge and give yourself a break from the daily grind. Self-care is a great way to get in tune with yourself. Discover what you need to do to give yourself the energy to face the day renewed and fierce.
5 | Journal
Journaling is the perfect way to clear your mind, and record things for the future. Journaling helps you get in touch with yourself. You can release your worries and anxieties to the pages, you can remember the good times, and discover more about yourself. Pick out a beautiful journal that resonates with you, the one you fall in love with at first sight. Then gives it your thoughts, fears, desires and everything else. Write daily and see where your journal takes you.
6 | Trust Your Intuition
Try this, the next time you get a “hunch” listen to it, see what happens. Even if you decide to not follow that hunch, also see what happens. Notice the synchronicity that appear in your life if you embrace your hunches and feelings. Pay attention to your feelings, and discover how you feel when you follow them. How do those actions make you feel? Do they make you feel strong? Fulfilled? Happy? Invincible?
Discovering your authentic self will not happen over night. It is a process of continually finding and rediscovering the things you thought you knew about yourself. Over time you grow and change as a person, be open to these changes. See where they lead you. Don’t feel you have to cling to who you once were because society says you should be a certain way. They aren’t you. They don’t have to live your life. You do. Wouldn’t you rather be living the life you want, instead of the one that society tells you to want?